sexual thoughts and shocks

Pirate I am sorry your question has raised so many negative responses. I am a licensed therapist and I just want to end my participation by saying if your friend has a problem then encourage him to seek help for it. What ever happens remember he needs to believe it is a problem before anyone can help him.

It's like this. You're right, help is always nice to get. But pretend for a minute that I run a garage--I'm a mechanic. I'm a professional. People come to me to fix their problems. And if a car drives out of my garage and blows up, I'm in a lot of trouble. Trouble I can get sued for--lose my license and livelihood. Not a good thing for anybody, mechanics and counselors included, which is why I have to be careful in handling the cars that come into my garage.

So let's pretend for a moment that a car comes into my shop and that driver says, "I think the guy who was just driving down the street front of me has a problem with his catalytic converter," they may be right, and I may get a chance to look at that converter, but herein must point out two things:

1) The fellow with the broken catalytic converter didn't ask to be seen for that problem, and pointing out or casting opinions on a "broken thing" in a psychological context is nothing at all like doing it in a garage. Moreover, the problem may be something else entirely, and all I've got is the driver's hearsay that there's a problem. The fellow with the broken catalytic converter hasn't provided any information whatsoever. Heck, he's never been in my garage. Furthermore, if I say to the concerned driver, "You may be right, here's X and Y and Z as information to take back to the table." I may be doing more harm than good. Let me repeat that: I may, in casting an unqualified opinion on something, may be doing more harm than good.

2) If the driver who voiced a concern, the one pointing at the catalytic converter, fails to notice he/she has a flat tire on her own car, I'm going to point that out. She is then free to do with that information what she will, wether she wants to discuss it in my shop, or drives down the highway for several miles before choosing to address it.

So what then, is there to say? "Go read a book on catalytic converters?" What if that's not even it? Clearly "Go read a book on flat tires." is offensive.

Now then, there are plenty of "helping" tribes out there who will listen to the issue and cast a wide variety of dispersions and opinons on any problem, mechanical or otherwise. This tribe is not among them. And for that matter, this tribe doesn't really see that much traffic (not that this point is germaine to the current discussion). Those tribes may have plenty of people who can help you fix a tire or a catalytic converter any number of ways. But if your car blows up, who is then responsible? What book would you like to read then?

sugar

it has nothing to do with money.

it has to do with how i viewed this tribe. i thought it was for the professionals to discuss things that come up in the field.

if not then i'm fine with whatever people want to do. this issue seemed to create such an issue, i suggested closing it off. i don't really care either way, to be honest.